Why Do I Feel This Way?
A self-paced, 5-step guide to help you understand how your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors work together to create your Secure (or Insecure) Self.
You’re not broken. You’re just running patterns that no one ever taught you how to name.
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You’re smart .
Self-aware.
You’ve probably read all the books, listened to the best podcasts, journaled, or seen a therapist. And yet...
✔️ You spiral into overthinking.
✔️ You say yes when you want to say no.
✔️ You replay conversations in your head.
✔️ You feel anxious or numb for no reason.
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You keep asking, "What is wrong with me?"
The truth is: Nothing is wrong with you.
You just never learned the language of your internal world. Until now.
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I'm Dr. Jen
Licensed therapist, attachment expert, and fellow human who’s asked that same question too many times to count.
After 22 years of helping people understand themselves more deeply, I created this guide as a first step out of confusion and into clarity.
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Why Do I Feel This Way? is a 30-page, self-paced workbook that walks you through a 5-step emotional clarity process I call The CLEAR Method:
1. Connect with your attachment style
Understand the invisible patterns that shape how you relate to yourself and others. Your attachment style is the lens through which you interpret connection, safety, and belonging.
2. Learn your OBJECTS (the hidden beliefs shaping your reality)
Identify the subconscious Opinions, Beliefs, Judgments, Expectations, Conclusions, Thoughts, and Speculations driving your emotional responses. These mental “objects” are the stories you’ve been living—often without realizing it.
3. Examine your emotions with compassion
Learn how to pause and feel without judgment. By turning toward your emotions with curiosity instead of fear, you unlock deeper clarity and self-compassion.
4. Assess your actions without shame
Explore how your thoughts and feelings shape your behavior. This step helps you notice automatic reactions and begin choosing responses that align with your values.
5. Reframe the story you’ve been living
Using what you've uncovered, rewrite your internal narrative with honesty and hope. This is where insight becomes healing—and healing becomes action.
This isn’t just self-help fluff. It’s a powerful, proven framework to help you go from emotionally scattered to self-connected.
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"Why Do I Feel This Way?"
This informational guide teaches you to:
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✔️Understand your emotional patterns through the lens of attachment.
✔️Identify hidden thought loops that keep you stuck.
✔️Create space between what you feel and what you do.
✔️Feel more connected to your inner self than you have in years.
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Integrate the CLEAR process into your life right now!
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